Should I Tell Her?
My friend just got asked to prom. She’s excited because she’s sure this will lead to them hooking up long term. But I happen to know she was her date’s fourth choice. Do I tell her?

37% say DO IT!
Better she finds out from you, instead of the gossip mill. Let her in on your knowledge and be there for her. —Dee, 17, Pennsylvania

63% say DON’T DO IT!
Telling her she was low on his list can have no possible good outcome. It may only make you look jealous. —Sarah, 18, West Virginia

THE PRO* SAYS:
I have to admit, this is one time when honesty doesn’t necessarily pay. First off, you may not have all the facts, and you could wind up just hurting her feelings. Maybe the first few people he asked were totally impossible choices. And who knows, things could work out for your friend. If they don’t, be there for her as a shoulder to cry on. If you feel like you must say something or you’ll burst, caution her against throwing herself at him. Remind her that this is a great chance to get to know him and see if she likes him

Should We Do It?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a long time, and he thinks prom would be the perfect night for us to have sex for the first time. But it feels forced. Should we do it?

6% say DO IT!
If you feel like it’s right, then go ahead and tell him you’ll think about it. Make sure he knows that you might change your mind that night, though. —Katie, 17, Virginia

94% say DON'T DO IT!
The whole “have sex on prom night” thing is so cliché. If you feel like things are forced, then you shouldn’t do it. You should let it happen when the mood is right—not on some “scheduled” day. —Brittney, 18, New Jersey

THE PRO* SAYS:
Sex is a superbig step and it’s something you need to be sure about—you should never feel pressured into it. If you and your boyfriend have a good relationship, then you should be able to voice your concerns. Tell him it feels forced and it makes you uncomfortable. Should you decide the time is right, be smart and use protection. And remember, you’re always allowed to change your mind

Should I Ditch Him?
I already have a date for prom, but my main crush just asked me. Do I ditch my date?

42% say DO IT!
Prom is a once-in-a lifetime event. Go with the guy you actually like. But don’t be mean about breaking it off with the guy who asked you first. —Ashley, 16, Missouri

58% say DON’T DO IT!
Tell him you already have a date and don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but you’ll save him a dance. If he doesn’t understand, he’s not worth chasing after. —Alejandra, 17, California

THE PRO* SAYS:
What if the roles were reversed and he deserted you for some Vanessa-lookalike? We bet it wouldn’t feel that great—and your date would probably agree with us. Alejandra makes a good point: If your crush is worth it, he’ll understand and stick with you. This doesn’t mean you have to feel like star-crossed lovers on prom night. Just because you agreed to go with this other boy doesn’t mean the two of you are a couple. You and your crush can start hanging out before prom, or make plans to meet up afterward. Just be sure your date knows that you want to go as friends

Should I Lie?
My group is renting a beach house after prom, but my parents won’t let me go because there won’t be any adult supervision. My best friend said I should just tell them I’m staying over at her house and go anyway. Should I?

36% say DO IT!
You’re only young once and prom night is supposed to be one of the best times in your life. If the beach house experience will make your prom special, then I say go for it! —Analeise, 16, Texas

64% say DON’T DO IT!
If you go without their permission and something happens, you’ll lose your parents’ trust. That’s a pretty steep price to pay for one night of fun. Instead, try to convince your parents that you are mature enough to handle yourself. —Jazmin, 16, Tennessee

THE PRO* SAYS:
Repeat after us: Do not lie to your parents. As Jazmin points out, it’s not worth one night of craziness. You could lose certain privileges, and, what’s worse, their trust. Instead, call a daughter-parent conference and negotiate. Remind them that you understand things can sometimes get out of hand without adult supervision, but you’re a responsible young woman with good judgment. Cite past examples of your stellar behavior. Finally, offer to call them when you get there and again when you leave—and obey their curfew. Bottom line: If your parents still say no, then the ocean-side soiree will have to go on without you.